"Sediakan waktu yang cukup untuk merencanakan pernikahan anda setidaknya duabelas bulan
karena dengan waktu yang cukup anda akan dapat memperoleh lebih banyak pilihan dan memilih yang terbaik untuk pernikahan anda."
Dalam merencanakan dan menentukan tanggal pernikahan sebaiknya perlu untuk mempertimbangkan beberapa faktor yang cukup penting seperti:
Keadaan cuaca dan musim.
Menikah dimusim hujan akan lebih baik diadakan di dalam gedung.
Hari dimana para undangan akan bisa datang.
Para pengantin biasanya memilih hari pernikahan pada akhir pekan hal ini disebabkan karena lebih besarnya kemunkinan undangan untuk bisa datang tetapi tidak jarang juga pengantin mengadakan pesta pernikahan di awal atau pertengahan minggu. Hal yang terpenting adalah apabila semua keluarga tidak berkeberatan maka hal tersebut tidak akan menjadi masalah.
Mempertimbangkan hari raya lainnya yang akan bertepatan dengan hari pernikahan anda.
Apabila hari pernikahan anda bertepatan dengan hari libur nasional tentunya tempat hiburan lainnya akan padat jadi harus mempertimbangakan waktu dan tempatnya.
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
Sunday, March 16, 2008
Wedding Chocolate Banana Cake Of Christophe Felder
Preparation:
30 minutes+ 3 hours with the refrigerator Cooking: 25 to 30 minutes Ingredients for 8 people:chocolate 100g with cocoa-110g 60% of butter-4 eggs-150g of sugar semolina-60g of flour-1 cuiullère to powder cocoa soup not sweetened-1 banana-50g of brown sugar.
Process:
Chop the chocolate then made melt it with the bain-marie or with the microwave with butter, mix until obtaining a smooth and tepid texture.Make bleach eggs with the caster sugar while whipping vigorously. Incorporate the chocolate melted with butter. Filter together the flour and the cocoa then add them to the paste.Reserve this mixture with refrigerator 2 to 3 a.m., even a night.
Preheat your furnace with 210°C.Butter and farinez a mould with lacked 24 cm in diameter then fill it with the apparatus chocolate.Approximately peel and cut bananas out of 4 mm thickness discs and cover surface with the cake.Make cook during 25 minutes by supervising the cooking and the colouring of the cake.Let cool out of the furnace, unmould the cake then powder it with brown sugar.
This cake is better if it is tasted tepid, accompanied of a hot chocolate cup it is a delight.
30 minutes+ 3 hours with the refrigerator Cooking: 25 to 30 minutes Ingredients for 8 people:chocolate 100g with cocoa-110g 60% of butter-4 eggs-150g of sugar semolina-60g of flour-1 cuiullère to powder cocoa soup not sweetened-1 banana-50g of brown sugar.
Process:
Chop the chocolate then made melt it with the bain-marie or with the microwave with butter, mix until obtaining a smooth and tepid texture.Make bleach eggs with the caster sugar while whipping vigorously. Incorporate the chocolate melted with butter. Filter together the flour and the cocoa then add them to the paste.Reserve this mixture with refrigerator 2 to 3 a.m., even a night.
Preheat your furnace with 210°C.Butter and farinez a mould with lacked 24 cm in diameter then fill it with the apparatus chocolate.Approximately peel and cut bananas out of 4 mm thickness discs and cover surface with the cake.Make cook during 25 minutes by supervising the cooking and the colouring of the cake.Let cool out of the furnace, unmould the cake then powder it with brown sugar.
This cake is better if it is tasted tepid, accompanied of a hot chocolate cup it is a delight.
INGREDIENTS:
8 Corn tortillas
16 ounces (1 cn)Corn black beans - rinsed and drained
7 ounces (1 cn)pink salmon; w bones - drained
2 tablespoons Safflower oil
1/4 cup Fresh lime juice
1/4 cup Fresh parsley - chopped
1/2 teaspoon Onion powder
1/2 teaspoon Celery salt
3/4 teaspoon Ground cumin
3/4 teaspoon Garlic - minced
1/2 teaspoon Lime zest - rated
1/4 teaspoon Red pepper flakes - dried
1/4 teaspoon Chili pepper
INSTRUCTION:
To prepare this appetizer Mexican recipe preheat oven to 350 degrees first. Then cut tortillas in triangles and toast oven until crisp, about 5 minutes. Combine the beans and salmon, flaking the salmon with a fork. Mix remaining ingredients; chill to blend flavors. Serve with tortilla chips.
8 Corn tortillas
16 ounces (1 cn)Corn black beans - rinsed and drained
7 ounces (1 cn)pink salmon; w bones - drained
2 tablespoons Safflower oil
1/4 cup Fresh lime juice
1/4 cup Fresh parsley - chopped
1/2 teaspoon Onion powder
1/2 teaspoon Celery salt
3/4 teaspoon Ground cumin
3/4 teaspoon Garlic - minced
1/2 teaspoon Lime zest - rated
1/4 teaspoon Red pepper flakes - dried
1/4 teaspoon Chili pepper
INSTRUCTION:
To prepare this appetizer Mexican recipe preheat oven to 350 degrees first. Then cut tortillas in triangles and toast oven until crisp, about 5 minutes. Combine the beans and salmon, flaking the salmon with a fork. Mix remaining ingredients; chill to blend flavors. Serve with tortilla chips.
Characteristics of the woman whom it is most befitting to marry
As we have previously mentioned, what is intended by nikaah is for the husband and wife to seek pleasure/enjoyment with each other and build a pious family leading to a stable community.
So, based upon this, the type of woman whom it is most befitting to marry is the one who exemplifies these two issues, and that she is both physically and spiritually/internally beautiful.
As regards physical beauty, this entails completeness of structure, the more beautiful and sweeter in speech a woman is, the more pleasing she is to the eyes, and likewise her speech is to the ears. So the heart opens up to her and feels comfortable in her presence, and in so doing, actualising the statement of Allaah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala):
{And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy…} (Soorah ar-Room, Aayah 21)
Her spiritual/inner beauty, on the other hand entails completeness of religion and manners, and the more complete a woman is in her religion and manners the more beloved she is to the soul and the better are the consequences (of marrying her). Because, a religious woman obeys Allaah's commands and safeguards her duties towards her husband, his bed, his children and wealth; She assists him in obeying Allaah, when he forgets she reminds him and if he is lazy she encourages him, if he is angry she cools him down. And a well mannered lady does things to increase her husband's love, respects him and does not stay back in anything he likes her to go ahead with, nor does she go ahead in anything he likes her to stay back in. The Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) was asked: who is the best wife? And he answered:
«One who pleases him when he looks, obeys him when he commands, and does not go against his rules in her person and his wealth, in a manner he dislikes.» And he also said:
«Marry loving wives with high birth rates for I will be proud of your numbers in front of the (other) Prophets (or nations).» Thus, if a woman with both physical and spiritual/inner beauty can be obtained, then this is the height of perfection and the greatest happiness with the guidance of Allaah.
So, based upon this, the type of woman whom it is most befitting to marry is the one who exemplifies these two issues, and that she is both physically and spiritually/internally beautiful.
As regards physical beauty, this entails completeness of structure, the more beautiful and sweeter in speech a woman is, the more pleasing she is to the eyes, and likewise her speech is to the ears. So the heart opens up to her and feels comfortable in her presence, and in so doing, actualising the statement of Allaah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala):
{And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy…} (Soorah ar-Room, Aayah 21)
Her spiritual/inner beauty, on the other hand entails completeness of religion and manners, and the more complete a woman is in her religion and manners the more beloved she is to the soul and the better are the consequences (of marrying her). Because, a religious woman obeys Allaah's commands and safeguards her duties towards her husband, his bed, his children and wealth; She assists him in obeying Allaah, when he forgets she reminds him and if he is lazy she encourages him, if he is angry she cools him down. And a well mannered lady does things to increase her husband's love, respects him and does not stay back in anything he likes her to go ahead with, nor does she go ahead in anything he likes her to stay back in. The Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) was asked: who is the best wife? And he answered:
«One who pleases him when he looks, obeys him when he commands, and does not go against his rules in her person and his wealth, in a manner he dislikes.» And he also said:
«Marry loving wives with high birth rates for I will be proud of your numbers in front of the (other) Prophets (or nations).» Thus, if a woman with both physical and spiritual/inner beauty can be obtained, then this is the height of perfection and the greatest happiness with the guidance of Allaah.
The conditions for nikaah
Part of the beauty of the Islaamic system and the precision applied in legislating its rulings is that conditions exist for every contract which are applied,
and in so doing establishes limits/constraints within which they are carried out and sustained. So, every contract has conditions without which the contract is incomplete. And this is clearly indicative of the Islaamic rulings and its perfectness, since it came from One Who is All-Wise and knows all that is good for His creation. So He has legislated for them that by which their religious and worldly affairs are improved so that the situation does not become chaotic and without limits. One of these contracts is the contract of nikaah; and the contract of nikaah has conditions, and we shall mention the important ones here:
1) Consent of both parties: So it is incorrect to force either the man or the woman to marry each other, if they do not so desire. Allaah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) says:
{O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will…} (Soorah an-Nisaa., Aayah 19)
And the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said:
«A virgin should not be married until her approval is sought», and they said: O Messenger of Allaah, what form will her agreement take? He said:
«That she remains silent.»
So the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) has prohibited the marriage of a woman who has not consented; and this includes the virgin and the divorcee or widower. However, in the case of the latter, her verbal consent is imperative, but for the virgin, silence is sufficient since it is possible that she may be shy in (verbally) indicating her consent.
If she is not interested in getting married, then it is not permissible for anyone to force her, even her father, as mentioned in the hadeeth:
«…and regarding the virgin, then her father is to seek her consent.»
And there is no sin upon her father if he does not marry her off in such a situation, because she herself is not interested. However, he must (continue to) maintain and protect her.
If two individuals were to seek her hand in marriage and she expresses a preference for one over the other, and her walee wants her to marry the other, then she is to be married off to the one she chooses if he is suitable for her. However, if he is not suitable for her, then her walee is to prevent her from marrying him, and as such there is no sin upon him.
2) The walee: The nikaah is not valid if the bride does not have a walee, as the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said:
«There is no nikaah without a walee.»
So if a woman marries herself off, her nikaah is invalid.
The walee is a male adult who is an adult, responsible person among her closest male relatives (from her father's side), such as the father, or grandfather (father's father), the son, the grandson, (son's son), the blood brother, the father's brother, the father's uncle and their children.
As for the mother's brother, his children and the grandfather (mother's father), then they do not Islaamically have any guardianship over her.
Since it is imperative for her to have a walee, and it is obligatory upon the walee to choose the most suitable and the most ideal partner for her if there are a number to choose from. And if there is only one person who has sought her hand in marriage, and he is suitable and she is pleased with him, then her walee must marry her off to him.
Let's pause for a moment to understand the extent of this major responsibility which the walee undertakes on behalf of the woman Allaah has made him a guardian over. She is therefore a trust upon his shoulders and it is obligatory upon him to take care it and place it in its proper place. Also, it is forbidden for him to hoard her for his own personal goals, or marry her off with other than one who befits her, out of greed for that in which he may give to him. Certainly, this is part of the betrayal of trust and Allaah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) says:
{O you who believe! Betray not Allaah and His Messenger, nor betray knowingly your Amânât (things entrusted to you)} (Soorah al-Anfaal, Aayah 27).
He also says:
{Verily! Allaah likes not any treacherous ingrate to Allaah} (Soorah al-Hajj 38).
And the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said:
«Each one of you is a shepherd, and each one of you will be questioned about his flock.»
(Unfortunately) you find some suitable people who seek a woman's hand in marriage from her walee, and her walee simply continues to reject one after the other. So, whoever is found to be like this, then his guardianship over her becomes nullified and another walee from the closest of those who qualify (for the responsibility) should marry her off.
and in so doing establishes limits/constraints within which they are carried out and sustained. So, every contract has conditions without which the contract is incomplete. And this is clearly indicative of the Islaamic rulings and its perfectness, since it came from One Who is All-Wise and knows all that is good for His creation. So He has legislated for them that by which their religious and worldly affairs are improved so that the situation does not become chaotic and without limits. One of these contracts is the contract of nikaah; and the contract of nikaah has conditions, and we shall mention the important ones here:
1) Consent of both parties: So it is incorrect to force either the man or the woman to marry each other, if they do not so desire. Allaah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) says:
{O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will…} (Soorah an-Nisaa., Aayah 19)
And the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said:
«A virgin should not be married until her approval is sought», and they said: O Messenger of Allaah, what form will her agreement take? He said:
«That she remains silent.»
So the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) has prohibited the marriage of a woman who has not consented; and this includes the virgin and the divorcee or widower. However, in the case of the latter, her verbal consent is imperative, but for the virgin, silence is sufficient since it is possible that she may be shy in (verbally) indicating her consent.
If she is not interested in getting married, then it is not permissible for anyone to force her, even her father, as mentioned in the hadeeth:
«…and regarding the virgin, then her father is to seek her consent.»
And there is no sin upon her father if he does not marry her off in such a situation, because she herself is not interested. However, he must (continue to) maintain and protect her.
If two individuals were to seek her hand in marriage and she expresses a preference for one over the other, and her walee wants her to marry the other, then she is to be married off to the one she chooses if he is suitable for her. However, if he is not suitable for her, then her walee is to prevent her from marrying him, and as such there is no sin upon him.
2) The walee: The nikaah is not valid if the bride does not have a walee, as the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said:
«There is no nikaah without a walee.»
So if a woman marries herself off, her nikaah is invalid.
The walee is a male adult who is an adult, responsible person among her closest male relatives (from her father's side), such as the father, or grandfather (father's father), the son, the grandson, (son's son), the blood brother, the father's brother, the father's uncle and their children.
As for the mother's brother, his children and the grandfather (mother's father), then they do not Islaamically have any guardianship over her.
Since it is imperative for her to have a walee, and it is obligatory upon the walee to choose the most suitable and the most ideal partner for her if there are a number to choose from. And if there is only one person who has sought her hand in marriage, and he is suitable and she is pleased with him, then her walee must marry her off to him.
Let's pause for a moment to understand the extent of this major responsibility which the walee undertakes on behalf of the woman Allaah has made him a guardian over. She is therefore a trust upon his shoulders and it is obligatory upon him to take care it and place it in its proper place. Also, it is forbidden for him to hoard her for his own personal goals, or marry her off with other than one who befits her, out of greed for that in which he may give to him. Certainly, this is part of the betrayal of trust and Allaah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) says:
{O you who believe! Betray not Allaah and His Messenger, nor betray knowingly your Amânât (things entrusted to you)} (Soorah al-Anfaal, Aayah 27).
He also says:
{Verily! Allaah likes not any treacherous ingrate to Allaah} (Soorah al-Hajj 38).
And the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said:
«Each one of you is a shepherd, and each one of you will be questioned about his flock.»
(Unfortunately) you find some suitable people who seek a woman's hand in marriage from her walee, and her walee simply continues to reject one after the other. So, whoever is found to be like this, then his guardianship over her becomes nullified and another walee from the closest of those who qualify (for the responsibility) should marry her off.
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